Page 14 Cassiar Courier June 1987 From the Neighbour’s Kitchen Hopefully we have seen the last of that ‘white stuff’ and can get down to some serious outdoor activities including firing up the barbecue. We've gathered some recipes that are just a little different, that can be quickly and easily done on the grill...so try them and enjoy! BEST BARBECUED CORN An easy method of cooking corn on the barbecue, with a just picked taste. Great to serve with any of your barb- ecue favorites. grated Parmesan cheese salt and pepper 8 ears of corn, in husks butter or margerine Pull husks back slightly and remove silk, replace husks. Soak corn in cold water for 15 minutes. Have barbecue at medium heat. Place corn on grill and barbecue, turning often, 15 minutes or until. kernels are tender. (Test kernels by pulling back husks and piercing with a fork.) Meanwhile, place a small saucepan with flameproof handle on grill and melt butter. Stir in 2 tablespoons. of Parm- esan cheese if desired. Husk corn and serve with melted butter. Season with salt and pepper. Easy and delicious! FOIL-BAKED TOMATOES Select medium firm tomatoes, Cut each tomato in half, crosswise, sprinkle cut surface with salt and pepper. Put together with a thin slice of onion between; use a tooth- pick to hold together the reassembled tomato. Wrap each tomato in foil and bake at the edge of grill for 15-20 minutes. AWARD-WINNING BARBECUE SAUCE 1 small onion 2 cloves garlic, crushed 1 tsp salt % ¢ corn syrup 43 ¢ ketchup % c malt or cider vinegar % c HP. Sauce % tsp pepper 2 tbsp Worchestershire Sauce Tabasco to taste 1 tbsp hot Dijon-type mustard Combine ingredients in a saucepan and simmer for 10 minutes; Place meat to be grilled in a bowl and pour Sauce over meat, turning once. Marinate for 1 hour. Re- move meat from sauce. Place on grill and use sauce to baste meat. Great on beef, pork, chicken, whatever! THE BEST AIRLINE IN THE WEST IS CANADIA On April 26, Pacific Western Airlines and Canadian Pacific Air Lines become one airline. ie ts SUNDAY WEDNESDAY FRIDA Y - SPIRIT TAKES WING CHICKEN MEXICANA 2 2lb frying chickens, split in halves 1 8 oz can tomato sauce 1 tbsp parsley flakes J tbsp sugar I tsp salt % tsp garlic powder 1/8 tsp Tabasco sauce ¥4 tsp chili sauce Y%tsp pepper Combine tomato sauce and seasonings. Place chicken halves, bone side down, on grill. Cook over medium-hot. coals for 20 to 30 minutes. Turn chicken frequently and brush on tomato mixture. Makes 4 to 6 servings. SPEEDY BARBECUE SAUCE I pkg. brown gravy mix 1 cup catsup 1/2 tsp. Worcestershire sauc Makes 2 cups sauce 1 cup cold water or I tsp. dry mustard In medium saucepan, combine dry. gravy mix with water, add remaining ingredients. Cook over low heat, stirring constantly, until mixture bubbles and thickens. Cool; store in covered container in refrigerator. NO-FAIL BARBECUE CHICKEN Par-boil chicken pieces approximately 15-20 minutes. Baste with speedy barbecue sauce. Cook over hot coals 4-5 minutes each side. Enjoy perfect barbecued chicken every time! With one great schedule. WATSON LAKE ARRIVALS at 5:35 p.m. CP 197 FROM VANCOUVER EDMONTON FT. ST. JOHN FORT NELSON -WATSON LAKE DEPARTURES et 6:10 p.m. P 198 TO FORT NELSON FT. ST. JOHN EDMONTON CALGARY VANCOUVER Call your Travel Agent or Canadian Airlines at ett $36-7455 Canadian Airlines International 1 tbip. prepared mustard: by Pauline Woodrow and Leslie Johnston CREAMY CUCUMBER SAUCE 1 ¢ sour cream 1/3 ¢ minced cucumber 1% tsp-dillweed %4 tsp minced onion 44 tsp dry mustard 1 tsp minced parsley Mix all incredients and refrigerate for one hour. Serve with barbecued fish. Yeilds 1 cup. SUCCULENT BARBECUED FISH 2-3 lbs lake trout, fillets or steaks Sauce: 2/3-¢ mayonnaise 4% tsp chopped dill or.dillweed 1/3 c melted butter 1 tsp fresh lemon juice 1 tbsp honey J tbsp vinegar salt and pepper to taste Mix ingredients together until smooth, Brush sauce on both sides of fish and grill one side about six inces from coals, Turn fish over. Coat top with a little more sauce, and cook fish until sauce on top glazes over. Serve more: warmed sauce at the table. Makes 4-6 servings. EASY BOLOGNA KABOBS 1 to 1 1/2 lbs. chunk bologna (or luncheon meat), cut into I 1/2- inch pieces 6 to 8 (15-oz. can ) drained whole potatoes Drained pineapple chunks or apricot halves Sweet pickle halves or chunks 1/2 cup apricot or peach preserves or orange marmalade ( or try a fruit flavored baby food) 1/4 cup pineapple juice or orange juice or water 4 to 6 SERVINGS On about 6 skewers, thread bologna, potatoes, pineapple chunks and pickles, alternating as desired. Combine apricot preserves with pineapple juice. Place kabobs on rack over hot coals and grill 3 to 4 inches from heat for about 5 minutes, turning occasionally, until bologna is heated through. Brush kabobs with apricot mixture and continue grilling until meat is glazed and browned, about 5 minutes: Serve hot. > ‘DRUGS: USE AND ABUSE PART II - THE CHILDREN In alcoholic families, everyone suffers, and every- one suffers very much alone. This statement is especial- ly true for children of alcoholics. Without the predict- ability and stability of a functional family, these child- ren have no “center-line” to base their belief systems on. Children learn through identification and whether they want to or not, they will identify strongest with their parents. Extremes become their norm. These children will continue to reflect the patterns they ex- perience. Life at home is ultimately governed by the following rules. Don’t talk - excuses are usually rade up in an attempt to shelter children from irrational alcoholic behavior. The real issues, are never brought up. Children are amazingly intuitive, they learn not to talk openly inside, or outside of the family unit. Don’t trust - Trust means investing confidence, reliance and faith in another person. These virtues are often missing in the family. As the house is usually in a chaotic state, yesterdays rules disappear tomorrow. What dad said this morning, is not neccessarily true tonight. These children learn that to trust is to be vulner- able and to be vulnerable is to be hurt. Don’t feel - Children learn it is not safe to feel. They learn how to discount and repress feelings, often by parental example. With the above rules in place, these children, lacking the role models of a healthy, nurturing, func- tional family, scramble to find their place, to cope, to emotionally survive. Children of alcoholics often be- lieve they’re responsible for their parents behavior, and, therefore, feel they can somehow cure or control the situation. This need to control, to make thinks “right”, stays with them throughout their life. It is no accident that these children inevitably marry an alcoholic or another child of an alcoholic. They learn at a very early age to do what they can to relieve family tension, to try and portray a “Brady Bunch” appearance to the rest of the world. The following roles are common to children of alcoholics. The Responsible One (hero) - This is usually the 1st born or only child. This child picks up the responsi- bilities left behind by a trail of alcoholism and co-depnd- ancy. They’re usually the marvel of the neighborhood, taking care of the family, often assuming the parental role. This child (as with most children of alcoholics), FATHERS DAY BRUNCH Sunday, June 21 11:00 am to 2:00 pm CASSIAR CURLING CLUB FATHER OF THE YEAR AWARD MENU Steak and Eggs Hot Cakes and Sausage Champagne or Caesar Cocktails Included Wine and Beer Available ~ Noon until 2:00 pm SU Re Re eee ae ie e-—sie a> ze desperately seeks social acceptance, and becoming the “public exibit”, to demonstrate that everything in the family is Seay: The “hero” feels responsible for the salvation of family members, and experiences a tremend- ous amount of stress and feelings of inadequacy. The Scapegoat - This child takes the focus off the family problem of alcoholism by becoming defiant. They often appear consumed with anger and rebellion, assuming the blame for many of the family problems. The Mascot - The mascot provides comic relief for the family. This child will typically alleviate tension by doing something funny. The price however is high. Immaturity, hyperactivety and fragility are the result. The Placator - Their guiding principle is, “in the midst of chaos, I’ll fix it and make it better.” What they fix are peoples feelings, worries, and troubles. They learn to be super-sensitive and perceptive, taking care of everyones emotional needs - except their own. They are the people-pleasers and apologizers. It’s estimated that 80% of those involved in the helping professions are children of Alcoholics! The Lost Child - Their contribution is by not being a problem. They make no demands on anyone. Usually loners, they prefer privacy to the family chaos. These children make every effort to remain non-descript, often becoming the forgotten child at home, and at school. The lost child will handle any situation that arises without question or getting upset. As these children mature, they are termed adult children of alcoholics, robbed of their childhood, serious beyond their years. They usually encounter barriers with their relationships, not understanding why they continue to make the same mistakes over and over and over. The following is a list of traits common to adult children of alcoholics: - guess at what normal behavior is - have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end - lie when it would be just. as easy to tell the truth - judge themselves without mercy - have difficulty having fun - take themselves very seriously - have difficulty with intimate relationships - over-react to changes over which they have no control Qe te Re Ss Cassiar Courier June 1987 Page 15 ALCOHOLISM THE FAMILY DISEASE - constantly seek approval and affirmation - usually feel that they are different from other people - are super-responsible or seaseranclse - are extremely loyal even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved - are impulsive. They tend to lock themselves into a course of action without serious con- sideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. Adult children of alcoholics are “‘hyper-vigilant.” Geared toward self-protection and_ self-preservation, they learned control of their anger, compassion, love and tears. As a result, they pay prices in stress-related illnesses and lack of intimacey in relationships. A belief of adult children is that “it will never happen to me.” Unfortunately, without intervention and re-education, adult children of alcoholics are des- tined to repeat their own history. What we grow up with, we learned; what we learned, we practiced; and what we practiced we became. All of us have been affected by our past, but none of us have to be victims of that past. Here is a poem that typifies the meaning of recovery for adult children of alcoholics. After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul; And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning, and company doesn’t mean security: And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t con- tracts, and presents aren’t promises. And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead, with the grace of a man or a woman, Not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on today, because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans. And futures have a way of falling down in mid- flight. After a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you ask too much. So you plant your own garden, and decorate your own soul, you flowers And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong. That you really do have worth. And you learn, and you learn with every letting go, and with every good-bye, you learn. For ‘any additional information, please contact Gerry Gramek at 778-7520. LCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS Meets Every Wednesday & Sunday 8:00 p.m. Catholic Church Basement Province of British Columbia MINISTRY OF ENERGY, MINES AND PETROLEUM RESOURCES INVITATION TO TENDER The Ministry of Energy, Mines and Petroleum Re- sources will accept sealed tenders for the upgrading and clean-up of the Rosella/Spring Creek Mining Road. This road starts at approximately km. 663.4 of High- way 37. The road is to be upgraded and cleaned up according to Ministry of Forests guidelines. The road is approximately 24 kilometers in length and provides access into the Spring, Rosella and Bingo Creek areas. A site visit is mandatory and. will be conducted by Ministry of Forests personnel, Dease Lake. (Date to be set). Tender documents may be picked up at the Ministry of Forests office, Dease Lake, B.C. or from the District Inspector of Mines office, Smithers, B.C. D.W. Flynn, P. Eng. . Inspector of Mines Bag 5000 Smithers, B.C. ae vos 2N0_ a Instead of waiting for someone to bring