~ EEE a a —————— ——— eo Page 16 September 1982 Cassiar Courier IN AND AROUND SCHOOL DISTRICT 87 cont'd from Page 9 KIDS’ CONFLICTS RESOLVED A five-step approach that may save your sanity at the end of summer. 1. When you notice the beginning of a con- flict, just observe. Don’t intervene unless the children ask for your help. “Observe is the key word. Let the children know that you are avail able to assist them in dealing with a problem, but that you will not solve it for them. 2. If the conflict goes beyond an initial en- counter, such as one child hitting another and the other hitting back, stop it and allow the two to exchange comments verbally about their argument. Permitting a fistfight to con- tinue might cause an injury and does not solve the disagreement. As long as you give the chil- dren an opportunity to respond, your goal is first to end the immediate conflict and then to help resolve the original problem. 3. If the children request your help, the conflict threatens injury or the disagreement is excessively disruptive to the group, call the chil- dren over to you and dispassionately tell them that they must sit in a specific area - a ““discus- sion center’ - until they solve the problem. You can establish rules for the center at the time of the incident. Some possible rules: - No hitting is allowed during the dis- cussion period. - No other children can get involved or listen. - Both children must remain in the center until both are ready to resume peaceful activities. - Both children must be satisfied with the settlement of the disagreement. If you work with very young children, they may not have the language skills to talk through a disagreement. They may forget the incident very quickly and begin playing. But this ‘‘resolution”’ is far superior to one in which KNOWLEDGE NETWORK SCHEDULE Be & WIC: Middie Foster lerstand Childhood Human Adolesc. ! UBC:Field Dev. 312 cone tty Cont ACCESS TBA UBC:Health Sciences a BOTANIC week or FALL 1982 TENTATIVE > +> + + + oe oe Prof.Eng. Bees UBC: ie SFU: Crim. /| Dev. 317 ee you solve the problem directly for them based on your own values, possibly misguided by erro- neous information or sterotypical labels. 4. Following the children’s ‘‘discussion”’ in the center, observe their subsequent behavior to determine if the event is indicative of some deeper problem requiring your individual atten- tion at a later time. For example, be aware of the child who is always agressive or who always allows himself or herself to be hit and meet with the child in private to discuss the situation. 5. Remind the children that you are there to help them deal with a problem that they feel is too large for them to hanéle alone. Encour- age them to feel free to come to you to set up a forum or discussion to resolve the conflict among themselves. LONG-RANGE BENEFITS With the help of good models, patience and discussion centers, most children can learn to solve their own conflicts, even when adults are not around. The effects of this approach will prove beneficial later in life as well. 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Also 60 plus acres Placer Prop- erty same location. Bank financed at present.-See John Brown or write Box 590, Cas- siar, B.C. STAR GAZING - Cont‘d from Page 12 Virgoans have good artistic tastes and tendencies. Any unpleasant surroundings have such an affect on them that they lose their appetite and are induced toward dys- peptic troubles. These people love music, beauty and or- der in their lives. They have an excellent memory, and love fine detail. They think and act quickly and are always in motion, being wide awake and eager. They have a strong love of nature with great power of self-control. They are fond of home and are devoted to family interests and are very earnest in their desire to contribute to the comfort of their loved ones. These people take a lively in- terest in the affairs of their friends. They are nature lovers and are aware of the laws of good health, somewhat dis- criminant in their choice of food and puta lot of faith in the efficacy of dieting to ward off illness. Their best re- medy for warding off ills is open-air exercises. These individuals tend to worship the intellect, and are good reasoners, although they are dogmatic in their o- pinions. They are sticklers for grammatical accuracy and purity of diction. They are difficult to overcome in an ar- gument as they never forget what they are going to say. These people have a tendency towards being very ego- tistical if they are not intellectually developed, and may consider their way of thinking and doing to be superior to that of others. They are fond of show and ceremony, and to gain a foot-hold in public or social life they are some- times very servile in manner to those whose wealth and station are above theirs. They tend to be extremely ner- vous and fussy, continually rushing about in search of ex- citement, and unless they strive to control this tendency, they are apt to grow shiftless, neglecting their more im- portant duties. When these people are brought face to face with poverty or disaster, they have so much self confi- dence that they are able to pull themselves together with- out much difficulty. They are inquisitive, inclined to pry into the affairs of others and while utterly unaware of their own. shortcomings, tend to make sharp and ill- natured comments on everything and everyone. VOCATION WOMEN - Women of this sign type have strong maternal instincts making them the most devoted of mothers. In their love affairs they tend to be fickle and capricious. They have strong wills and seek to control, but if their per- sonal freedom is not interfered with, they are very kind and obliging. These ‘women are fine housekeepers and usually prefer to entertain their friends rather than to be entertained. These women are very sensitive, so when things go wrong, she either gives vent to her ill-humor in bitter, sar- castic, but well-rounded speeches, or lapses into moody si- lence, She is usually good humored and her fault finding is of acritical, corrective type, without a trace of ill feeling. All Virgo women tend to be excitable and need re- sponsibility of some kind to satisfy their restless mental and bodily activity. They have keen intellects and are very capable and efficient. They make fine writers, musicians, artists, teachers, dressmakers and milliners. They can excel in almost anything they undertake. MEN - Men born under Virgo are well adapted to a mer- cantile or professional life. They are capable of carrying on great enterprises. If they have practical experience to copy from. They. are mentally keen, observant and ana- lytical, and as teachers, lecturers, lawyers and statesmen they are equalled by very few. Their taste for analyzing combined with their love of detail, form and color makes them very able as art, musical and dramatic critics. The Virgo man tends to have very quick sight and equally quick understanding. They are rapid proof readers. Their mental grasp is tenacious and comprehensive, Their reason- ing is direct and logical. These men never submit to defeat but will yield to force of circumstances until they have had the time to prepare for a renewal of the assault. As writers they possess purity of style, insight into life, man- ners and character. Their literature is crammed with wis- dom and knowledge of nature’s laws. They are efficient as clerks, accountants, secretaries, engravers, printers, travel-- ling salesmen and commission merchants. VIRGO COMPATABILITY VIRGO WITH LEO - Leo is extroverted and likes to dom- inate while Virgo expresses modesty, is retiring and more inclined to be subservient. The success or failure of this combination usually depends upon which sign is male and — which is female. It is usually better when Leo leads and Virgo is following. Sometimes the Leo’s ardent emotions can overwhelm the self-controlled Virgo but Virgo will seldom let it show. VIRGO WITH VIRGO - The two of you will enjoy a lively intellectual rapport, discussing your favorite hobbies and pastimes. The two of you offer constructive criticism of each other’s work. There is a tendency though, that the two of you may worry too much about anything and everything. If the two of you take it slow your relation- ship will develop and grow.